I knew from when I picked up the rings that there could only
be two possible places for me to propose to Ashley. One of those places was the
top of the extravagant ancient city of Machu Picchu; a place that screams epic
and romanticism. It is a place that was built to survive anything and against
all odds. The other place was where I saw an exciting future flash before my
eyes while looking into hers. Not as “epic” as Machu Picchu in beauty or
grandeur, but just as beautiful in the fact that it was where I knew I wanted
to spend the rest my life with her. This place was a cow pasture in Point Reyes
on November 7, 2010 at sunset. We had gotten lost on a hike that we hadn’t
planned and walked amongst angry cows and flat lands. We stopped on a hill and
watched the sunset. And as I looked into her eyes and took a deep sigh, her face
transformed from her 25 year old face to a beautiful old lady with visions of
children and us holding hands. I was certain that day that she was the one for
me.
So I chose Point Reyes as the place where I would propose. I knew she
expected me to do it in Peru, as it would have been perfect for any other
couple that didn’t have the Point Reyes life changing experience. After we left
all the magical places in Peru, Ashley asked me when I was going to propose,
almost angry that I hadn’t done it in Peru as she had in the rainforest.
After we got back from Peru, I asked her if she wanted to
take a day trip out to Point Reyes and have a picnic. We packed up a backpack,
some hiking shoes, bathing suits, (I packed the ring), and the $100 bottle of
wine that we bought for $30 at Grocery Outlet and went to Point Reyes. Along
the way we stopped for cheese at various cheese makers and some sausage and
bread and then made out way out to the beach. We did some body surfing where we
both changed into and out of our bathing suits behind a rock on the beach. We
ate our fancy cheese and sausage and even cracked open the wine and poured it
into my plastic Nalgene bottle (because we are classy like that).
At sunset I
got down on one knee and proposed with my pre-prepared speech that I had
practiced about 15 times to myself at home. The speech went something like this:
“You are the best
thing that has ever happened to me.
You are the most caring, strong, intelligent, beautiful, person I have
ever met. You push me to do the
right thing and think about what the consequences are of my actions; whether it
be affecting the environment, other people, or myself. I am a much healthier person now: both
physically and emotionally. I feel
like I am actually myself. You
make me be a better person and I feel like I can actually be myself and do the
things I want to do. I feel like
we complement each other in so many ways that I really do feel like you are my
better half and I am your better half.
Together, we make the perfect person. You are an extraordinary woman who deserves the best that
life can offer and the best that things beyond this world can offer. I am so blessed to be able to stand
here today looking at the woman I love and know that we are meant to be
together forever, no more, no less.
I know that we are meant to be together not only because we match so
well, but because our love has never felt anything other than natural. I look into your eyes and I see us
growing old together. From
swinging a child between our linked arms to seeing your wrinkley eyes looking
back at me. That is what I saw
here at Point Reyes. I saw us
growing old together and I saw how happy we were together. This was the start for our future for me. This was the
place I knew we were to be together forever. Ashley Thomas, my owl, my love, will you marry me.”
And she said yes, both of us crying and hugging and kissing
on this secluded beach. We both stood up and I sung her a medley of love songs and
we slow-danced.
I am a lucky lady to have found this one. And as you read
the rest of this blog about my struggles with my family, you will definitely
understand that I am so very blessed to have a loving and patient fiancée. She
was there through it all and has subdued her feelings about everything for me,
which is something no one should have to endure. I am forever grateful for her
constant love and support. And I know more now than I did when I proposed to
her that she is the one for me in every aspect. She understands me and is there
constantly pushing me to be the best and be treated no less than what I
deserve. And I am so very excited to announce that we are getting married in New York October 11, 2012!
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